53 AND 5: THE BEST DAY OF MY LIFE

Robin Brownlee
August 16 2011 02:11AM

For the first 47 years of my life, I never made a fuss about birthdays, be it mine or anybody else's. That changed at precisely 7:11 p.m. on Aug. 16, 2006 when Samuel Charles Robin Brownlee was born.

If the first paragraph a clue this isn't another Sam Gagner analysis or a look at the next edition of the Edmonton Oilers -- I'll draw some loose parallels between being Sam's dad and the Oilers later, but nothing the hardcore types can hang their hats on -- I don't know what is, so click through now.

The first item I wrote for Oilersnation, March 7, 2008, featured the same picture as above. That piece, written at a time when Sam, like this website, was just getting up and running, generated all of nine comments. I didn't care then because it was an excuse to use a picture of Sam, not that I need one.

Those of you who read here often likely know Sam's story. I've written this to fill in some of the blanks those for who don't, and because today is Sam's fifth birthday, and I feel so inclined.

TIME HAD COME

Sam's arrival at Royal Alexandra Hospital on my 48th birthday came three months early because we had no choice -- doctors feared my wife Analyn, who'd already been in hospital for a month, could take no more.

With her blood pressure dangerously high despite a daily cocktail of medications -- it was or 10 more different drugs at last count -- Analyn risked stroke, heart failure or death if the doctors didn't take Sam right away. The hospital called and told me, ready or not, it was time,

Even then, Analyn wanted to hang on. "Another day for Sam," she'd always say. That day, though, doctors said, "No more," and Sam came into the world some 90 days early, weighing two pounds and with his tough guy dad outside the operating room on his knees, crying like a baby, praying and offering Jesus Christ autographed Oilers jerseys and free hockey tickets forever if he'd let me keep both of them.

Analyn's determination to buy Sam more time, to give him a chance that might not have existed just a month earlier despite the profound risks for her, still humbles me when I think about it, which I do often.

I've told this story more than once during Astral Media's telethon for the Stollery Children's Hospital, where Sam had surgery for an intestinal defect after three months in neo-natal intensive care at the Royal Alex, and I blubber like a fool every time. Hell, I lose it just writing this.

LIFE-CHANGING

There was so much stress and worry early on. Sam was on a ventilator for six weeks because he couldn't breath on his own. We almost lost him once, but after Sam stopped breathing and the alarms went off, we were rushed away from his bedside and a team of NICU doctors and nurses unhooked all his tubes and wires and forced a new breathing tube down his throat.

That drama dealt with, doctors warned Sam would be visually impaired, or blind, and we were told to be prepared. Other long-term defects? The list of possibilities was long. We didn't care -- he survived.

Luckily, Sam dodged every bullet, save for the length of intestine that found its way through his abdominal wall. Seeing what I've seen since at The Stollery, and knowing what I know now, my heart goes out to those parents whose babies aren't as lucky.

Sam was discharged from hospital and came home close to his due date of Nov. 21. He was a relatively robust five pounds by then. The days, months and years since have been the happiest of my life. That we share the same birthday is just an added kick.

Georges Laraque, who visited in the hospital, came over to the house for Sam's first birthday. On my 50th and Sam's 2nd, we had a house full of people, friends like Jim Matheson and Rod Phillips. Bob Stauffer offered up a sketchy rendition of "My Way" on the karaoke machine.

Today, we're at 53 and 5.

ABOUT THAT HOCKEY TEAM . . .

People often draw parallels between sports and real life, some of them a reach, I suppose. This might qualify as that, but when I look back at the past five years, I see common themes between being Sam's dad and the relationship fans in this city have with the Oilers. For me, those themes include things like expectations, patience and something I'll simply call enjoying the moment.

Being new to fatherhood, I didn't have any expectations because I didn't have a template to go by. I was so late to the dad game -- most of my friends are grandparents now and I wasn't exactly paying attention when their children were toddling about -- I've had to learn as I go. That process continues. You ask friends. You read. You fake it. Best-guess stuff a lot of the time.

Likewise, I'm not convinced there's any template for GM Steve Tambellini to go by when it comes to building a successful hockey team, despite all the talk about the Chicago Model or the Detroit Model. Concepts? Trends? Sure. But there's a lot of variables.

Might I get it right with Sam? I hope so, although I'm put off that I still haven't figured out what prompted him to kick me in the groin that time at the checkout stand in the supermarket. I don't expect that it'll happen again, but I can't say for sure.

Sort of like Chris Pronger announcing he'd rather get gone after the 2006 Stanley Cup run or Sheldon Souray lighting Tambellini and the Oilers on fire two springs ago, no? I recovered considerably quicker than the Oilers, now five years out of the playoffs, have.

A good kid, like building a team, isn't paint-by-numbers.

PATIENCE

I'm convinced Sam is going to be a brilliant student, a popular kid and, one day, some manner of money-making machine or a big-time contributor to society, maybe both, when he grows up. What parent doesn't want and hope for that? There's every possibility, though, he'll fall short of that expectation. He might be a slacker, a sportswriter even.

While I'm waiting to find out, I've dealt with a record number of time-outs during junior-kindergarten. It got to the point this year that it was news when Sam didn't get a time out for failing to listen or playing too rough. The best laugh a group of parents waiting outside the classroom got this year was when Sam bounded out the door and proclaimed proud-as-you-please, "Dad, dad, I didn't get a time out today." Guffaws.

Being old bones for a dad -- my father was 18 when I was born, a swing of 30 years to the timeline Sam and I share -- patience does not come easily. I've got this constant sense of urgency, like I've got some catching up to do. Let's face it, I probably don't have another 40 years to see if Sam turns out the way I hope he will. Still, patience is a virtue.

It's much the same for Oilers fans. After five years out of the playoffs and back-to-back seasons sucking the hind banana in 30th place, I understand why fans are antsy. Selling hope is fine, but it's understandable if the people buying the pitch would rather the process move along.

This might be a fine team again one day, and there's reason to believe, given youngsters like Taylor Hall, Jordan Eberle, Magnus Paajarvi and Ryan Nugent-Hopkins. That said, there's a whole bunch of baby steps between now and then. Do you expect the Oilers to make the playoffs this season? OK, and I'll be enrolling Sam in driving lessons because, well, I'm already 53 and . . . Patience.

ENJOY THE MOMENT

Sam is capable of great moments and occasional brilliance. As a car guy, I appreciate that he knows a Corvette from a Mustang, and that he can differentiate between a V-8 and a pea-shooter (four-cylinder) by taking a look at the exhaust and noting the sound. He does it all the time.

Just as often, he'll send me into spasms by emptying the contents of his stomach all over the back seat, farting on purpose or slapping a greasy hand print on freshly polished portion of dad's car, knowing it causes me distress. Car guys don't do that. "Sam, what the hell?"

The way I see it, this edition of the Oilers, and the next couple editions for that matter, will tease fans by being brilliant one night and looking like they have never played the game the next. Up and down. Big swings. Fans, at least those who hang in and hang on, will take that ride with them.

Take the good with the bad, the brilliant with the befuddling along the way. If the Oilers turn out to be something special again, you'll have seen it and been a part of the process each and every step of the way. If I was paying for a ticket to get into Rexall Place, I couldn't think of many things more satisfying than that. Well, maybe a few.

Happy birthday, baby boy.

Listen to Robin Brownlee Wednesdays and Thursdays from 3 p.m. to 5 p.m. on the Jason Gregor Show on TEAM 1260.

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#1 David S
August 16 2011, 02:31AM
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Well written Robin. A refreshing take on what's really important.

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#2 PhillipSmithson
August 16 2011, 02:49AM
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We said Sir. I had to make the trip to the Stollery on more one occasion. My son, who turns 3 next month, had to go in for monthly visits due to a dangerous level of fluid in his brain. We made those trips from the age of 6 months until he was 2. Like the Oilers he is entering his toddler years, and like the Oilers he may fall down but the signs are pointing in the right direction.

Happy Birthday Sam. (and a future Happy Birthday to my son)

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#3 EasyOil
August 16 2011, 02:54AM
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Good read Robin, and happy birthday to you both.

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#4 sofarsogood
August 16 2011, 04:10AM
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Have a good day you three. Patience, like not going out and getting a goalie just yet, (DD, Bunz, Roy, Perhnon). Like not getting high priced free agent defenceman just yet. (Jeff, Martin, Colton, Klefbom, Musil). In another two years when this team knows more about these players than get your free agents. They will likely come here cheaper than anyway, or should I say they just might want to come here. Maybe ST has his eye on a free agent or two that is coming up in two years. Robin , who would that make the candidates? (Defence). Could this team get away with having a #2, two #3's, three #4's and two #5's? Better that way for this injury prone team. Hell, everybody have a good day!

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#5 knee deep in it
August 16 2011, 05:46AM
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good story Robin. My oldest daughter was 10 weeks premature and spent a month in the NICU.

Only one baby lost that month and it shook up all the parents.

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#6 Drew - Team no more tanking
August 16 2011, 05:51AM
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Happy birthdays to yous!!!

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#7 mayorpoop
August 16 2011, 06:34AM
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happy birhtday to both of you.

a great read to start the day. well done!

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#8 Matt Henderson
August 16 2011, 06:35AM
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Happy birthday you guys

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#9 Polsy
August 16 2011, 06:59AM
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I've been reading and listening for years, never commented. As a father who truly lives everyday for his kids, this article grabbed me, especially the hospital part. This reminded me why I think the book "The Road" by Cormac McCarthy should be required reading for all fathers, these stories let us know just how far we will go for our children. I'm sitting here drinking my morning coffee, quivering, and now can't wait for my 2 year old boy to call my name to announce he's up, any minute now...

Thanks for the article, Robin, I think I am going to have a truly great day.

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#10 Velo
August 16 2011, 07:53AM
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Great read. Way to set the tone for the day. Happy birthdays!

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#11 The Beaker
August 16 2011, 08:02AM
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Congratulations! You've got my thinking ahead to the day I'm going to be lucky enough to be a Father. Hopefully I will be telling the kid about these last few years of the Oilers the way my Dad told me about the Glory days (a thing of the past).

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#12 Pronger's Wife
August 16 2011, 08:08AM
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Wow, nice article Robin. Here I am in my office, quickly checking Oilersnation not expecting to get choked up and teary-eyed, but that's what happened. *clears throat - pounds chest and says 'da Bears, before my colleagues see me*.

I too have a little guy - he was not supposed to even make it to birth. But he did, he came early and had to stay in the hospital for a while until he bulked up to 5 pounds. Now he's the most active, healthy, happy little guy you'll ever meet and he actually turns 4 next week.

I am excited to be giving him his first Oilers jersey which he so deperately wants, with the number 4 on the back with his name (because we couldn't put the number 4 and Hall because of some stupid naming rights issues).

Happy birthdays going out to my little guy, Robin and Sam. Many great years ahead for all!

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#13 Ogden Brother Jr. - Team Strudwick for coach
August 16 2011, 08:10AM
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Happy birthday to the both of you. He must get his looks from mama.

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#14 natedoo22
August 16 2011, 08:17AM
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As always Robin a compelling read and a little perspective into what is deeply needed in our society today. We live in a time where everyone expects results &/or material things without enjoying some necessary growing pains. Using your analagy I can't help but think of Sam Gagner when fans have and continue to expect so much out of a 21 year old center, all I fear is we in EDM will push out a young player way too soon because of unrealistic expectations. Let's hope not one of "H.O.P.E" take significant steps back because god-forbid the masses will be screaming a trade for these kids straight to the next flight out of YEG. FYI to OIL fans...Iginla after his 1st full season went from 50 points down to 32 and I'm sure the fLames are thankful they didn't get to rash in thinking this guy was about to become a failure!!!

Happy Birthday to Sam, Robin, and my father today!!!

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#15 borisnikov
August 16 2011, 08:27AM
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My second son was born @ 24 weeks. I fall into the same extremely luck category you do Robin. He's going strong at 2 1/2 now, all thanks to the selfless work from the good people of the NICU at the Royal Alex(and my wife or course) and the 110 days they cared for him.

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#16 Ryan
August 16 2011, 08:38AM
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Good read Brownlee! You know how to say it right. Many people will admit you are by far the best writer at the nation. No matter what topic.

Happy Birthday

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#17 DougWeightProblem
August 16 2011, 08:38AM
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Very close to home with this story.

My own son was born earlier this year, also three months early, but weighed a hefty 2 lbs. 11 oz. My wife is a nurse, and were it not for her strong front and calm demeanor, I'm sure I wouldn't have been able to handle the two and a half months my boy spent in hospital. Being reintubated five times, lumbar puncture, a battery of blood tests that left his tiny veins almost empty; it made for many sleepless nights and stressful days.

When we finally took him home near the end of May (still almost a month before his original due date), it was a relief just to sleep in our own bed and know that our son was close. Now, weighing in at 9 lbs. 8 oz., and starting to smile and coo like any old baby, I feel truly lucky to be just a regular dad with a healthy boy. It's amazing that we can live somewhere where miracles like this happen all the time, and the NICU at the Alex, and Intermediate Care Nursery at the Nuns later on for us, are two places especially skilled in that regard.

Many happy wishes to you and your son today, Robin. I only hope my own family can grow as happily.

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#18 D
August 16 2011, 08:55AM
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It is postings like this one RB that reminds everyone of the real important things in life.

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#19 smiliegirl15
August 16 2011, 09:04AM
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Happy Birthday Robin and Sam! A nice reminder that there's more to life than hockey (well for today anyway!).

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#20 Love Monkey
August 16 2011, 09:15AM
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Happy birthday fellas! And thanks for the very touching article Robin. I'm having the same issue as others as I sit here at my desk with the 'tears and being choked up thing going on.' This hits so close to home for so many people, myself included.

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#21 The Towel Boy
August 16 2011, 09:24AM
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:'( Kudos. You got me all sentimental at work. I just hugged the fax machine.

Seriously though...Happy Birthdays!

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#22 Samuel
August 16 2011, 09:27AM
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Hey Mr. Brownlee,

Me and your son share the same birthday and name, had to comment.

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#24 Senator Theo
August 16 2011, 09:40AM
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Thanks for this Robin - I'm going to go call my wife and my girls now.

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#26 matt
August 16 2011, 09:54AM
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@Polsy

Have to disagree strongly re. "The Road" (I appreciate the sentiment behind the recommendation, but did not enjoy the book, despite the fact that it is obviously well done). But agree with every other word of the comment.

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#27 Amit
August 16 2011, 09:56AM
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Robin, I'm not a father but reading your story makes me wish I was.

Happy birthday boys. P

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#28 oobespoons
August 16 2011, 10:05AM
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Great read! Happy Birthday!

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#29 Petr's Jofa
August 16 2011, 10:06AM
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Happy Birthday Robin and Sam

It's amazing how reading stories like yours can bring back the emotions (the tears and the pit in the stomach). Like so many here, after a high risk pregnancy loaded with developmental fears, my daughter was born 7 weeks early. We spent almost two months between the Peter Lougheed and Foothills NICUs in Calgary and I can't say thank you enough to those nurses.

Born at 4 lbs 7 oz, she was the moster of the NICU but 7 year and 40 lbs later she's now the shortest, smartest, cutest, and bossiest child in grade 2.

I come to this site for the hockey analysis and humour, but stories about your son and Gregor's yearly article about his father are great reminders about what life's really about.

PS - My 5 year old son thinks this is the funniest thing ever and there is no sound better than a child's belly laugh. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IQ57TYKSqmQ

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#30 michael
August 16 2011, 10:07AM
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Those of us who are Fathers can empathize with your article. We all share that common bond. Being a father is so much more than we can imagine.I am 46 and my son is 8. Robins reminder for us all to be patient is fitting. I too feel the press of time. But I know that we need to enjoy the moment. The right now. As I write this my son is in the backgroung playing Cars 2 the videogame. between screeching and the laughing it makes it hard to imagine what my life would be without him.I hope one day to stand downtown with my son and watch an Oilers Stanley Cup parade once again.But I know that for that to happen its going to take alot of grwth and learning on the part of the team.I scoff at the likes of the Hockey News and thier 15th place perdiction. Shakespear wrote in Hamlet"We know what we are,but know not what we may be".Happy Birthday.

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#31 Oiler Country
August 16 2011, 10:09AM
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Happy birthday.

Well written article...is someone cutting onions around here?!?

What the hell..

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#32 Cory G
August 16 2011, 10:13AM
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Polsy and Pronger's wife, I am with the both of you. I have never commented and until 5 minutes ago had not signed up. Reading this story had me choked up and a bit shaky. My son was born 6 weeks early and only 3 pounds. My wife had high blood pressure and his baseline heart rate was low. This second picture Robin has on the blog is almost identical to one I have below my monitor at work.

He was born at the Royal Alex. I couldnt have asked for anymore from the Nurses at the NICU there. I get shaky everytime I have to walk in the halls at the Royal. My wife was a rock the whole time we were going through everything with him. He is just over 3 years old now and is an awesome normal kid and absolutely loves the Oilers and Taylor Hall.

We have number 2 on the way and my wife has the same issues but every extra day is a bonus!!

Cheers and Happy Birthday!!!

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#33 bbad
August 16 2011, 10:15AM
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Hi Robin, your son is beautiful and shares the same birthday with my son Tristan. Tristen is 5 as well and we hope Sam has a great birthday. Thanks for sharing your story.

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#34 Chris.
August 16 2011, 10:17AM
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@Robin Brownlee

So in one short week you took LT's slot on the radio, and then McLean's spot in the Oilogosphere... Your conquest of the media is complete!

As a father of two, and a longtime Oiler season ticket holder: I thank you for a cleverly blended article. Happy Birthday to both you and Sam good sir!

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#35 risto
August 16 2011, 10:19AM
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Well written Robin.

Fathers are a lucky bunch, as are we Edmontonians who choose to live here where things like the UofA Children's Hospital, great schools, playgrounds, and of course championship hockey exist.

My sons love playing punch buggy. They are better at identifying the little cars out there, I'm afraid the designs of most cars are too similar to distinguish, as opposed to other times in auto history.

I'm waiting until my kids are a bit older to get something nice to drive...maybe when I'm closer to your age ;)

Just a quick anecdote to tie this to the Oil: as a young boy, I got to enter the hallowed Oiler dressing room on a very memorable night. Intimidating as it was to be surrounded by giant hockey players and the busy media with tape recorders and cameras, I snaked my way through the crowd to gather signatures in the Gzowski book, but also carrying a program and puck. A voice said, "would you like to leave your stuff here, in my locker?" It was Matti Hagman, smiling down as only a father would, understanding my struggles juggling an armload of souvenirs. He let me leave my things for #99 (who was mobbed by media) to sign in his locker as I squirted around getting the team, and a very fierce naked and totally intimidating young Moose, to sign my book. Matti made me feel welcome, a gesture we often forget as we leave childhood behind and become adults and parents ourselves.

Thanks to Matti Hagman, and to you Robin! Great story, I'm very glad your son made it through to fill your life with questions and fun. You are taking care of yourself, so you will be there in 40 years for Sam and his kids too!

Happy Birthday Leos, it certainly matches the personalities!

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#36 Moetown
August 16 2011, 10:27AM
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Happy birthday fellas. Im a relatively young father at 32. I have a 2 year old and 3 month old at home and I dont remember life without them and I really dont want to. Have a wonderful day.

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#37 michael
August 16 2011, 10:28AM
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matt wrote:

Have to disagree strongly re. "The Road" (I appreciate the sentiment behind the recommendation, but did not enjoy the book, despite the fact that it is obviously well done). But agree with every other word of the comment.

"The Road". Hell of a book. Really well written. A fathers tale . The main character in The Road wishes to give his a better life but not at the cost of his values. He cherishes his humanity. The struggle to survive. Man vs Man. Man vs Himself. Man vs enviroment. Man vs God. It really was a well written book. It asks so many moral questions.Disturbing at times. But the main theme is that of love. A fathers love for his son. The Road was "well done". A modern tale of Abraham and Issac. It asks what would you willing to sacrifice for love.In the bible the first usage of the word love is found in the story of Abraham and Issac.Genisis 22-2. For those who have not read The Road or seen the film I highly recommend it.

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#38 Petr's Jofa
August 16 2011, 10:37AM
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michael wrote:

"The Road". Hell of a book. Really well written. A fathers tale . The main character in The Road wishes to give his a better life but not at the cost of his values. He cherishes his humanity. The struggle to survive. Man vs Man. Man vs Himself. Man vs enviroment. Man vs God. It really was a well written book. It asks so many moral questions.Disturbing at times. But the main theme is that of love. A fathers love for his son. The Road was "well done". A modern tale of Abraham and Issac. It asks what would you willing to sacrifice for love.In the bible the first usage of the word love is found in the story of Abraham and Issac.Genisis 22-2. For those who have not read The Road or seen the film I highly recommend it.

I'm going to agree with matt on this one. I see the sentement but I didn't like "The Road" at all. It could just be that I read it after I had just finished "A Long Way Gone: Memoires of a Boy Soldier" and the fiction of The Road just didn't stand upto the actual events that transpired in the non-fiction book.

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#39 Dan the Man
August 16 2011, 10:48AM
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Hope you guys have a great birthday!

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#40 mayorpoop
August 16 2011, 10:59AM
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Cory G wrote:

Polsy and Pronger's wife, I am with the both of you. I have never commented and until 5 minutes ago had not signed up. Reading this story had me choked up and a bit shaky. My son was born 6 weeks early and only 3 pounds. My wife had high blood pressure and his baseline heart rate was low. This second picture Robin has on the blog is almost identical to one I have below my monitor at work.

He was born at the Royal Alex. I couldnt have asked for anymore from the Nurses at the NICU there. I get shaky everytime I have to walk in the halls at the Royal. My wife was a rock the whole time we were going through everything with him. He is just over 3 years old now and is an awesome normal kid and absolutely loves the Oilers and Taylor Hall.

We have number 2 on the way and my wife has the same issues but every extra day is a bonus!!

Cheers and Happy Birthday!!!

good luck to you and your family on the birth of your second. one is fun and a challenge, two is chaotic and more fun at the same time.

i have a daughter who is 2 and a son 2 months, and every single day i read stories in the paper and online about horribly depressing and saddening things related to kids and parents and it makes me love them that much more and how my time is with them is precious.

it is refreshing to have posts like this because it does show the side of others that you would rarely see otherwise.

keep up the great work RB.

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#41 rindog
August 16 2011, 11:02AM
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Perspective is wonderful thing...

Back in 1999 (which was a fitting year "99") my wife and I were waiting to deliver the next Oiler to have his jersey in the rafters when things took a drastic turn.

At the moment our son was delivered with the cord around his neck my wife could still not see my panic as she said, "Honey, you got your boy!"

Once we realized that the one small gasp we heard was his last, it was too late.

Not even STARS Air Ambulance could help save our future NHL star.

It was at that very moment that my perspective on life changed.

Before that night, I dreaded the idea of having girls and knew that I NEEDED to have boys (hockey boys tath were GOING to make the NHL to complete my dream.

To make a long story short...

Less than a year later I was so proud when my first daughter came into the world. I didn't care if she wanted to be a dancer, doctor, welder or whatever - she was ALIVE!!!

Life has now turned around and I have two healthy girls that have taken a keen interest in sports. It might be because their father is a P.E. teacher and they have grown up in a gymnasium, but regardless - they have made their own choices and developed their own interests.

Even though May 20th, 1999 was a tragic day for my family - our son Brandon (who lived approximately 45 seconds) taught me how to put life into perspective.

Just as the Oilers hit their darkest days - things will turn around and will get better.

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#42 GSP
August 16 2011, 11:03AM
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Happy birthday to both of you Robin! This story hit really close and brought me to tears as a good friend had a baby born a month ago 4 months early at under 2 lbs. He did well for three weeks before unexpectedly passing away at three weeks. As a father of two it broke my heart and your story, albeit happy, brought back those feelings.

I am very happy for you Mr. Bronte and I hope you and Sam have at least 40 more years together!

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#43 dawgtoy
August 16 2011, 11:05AM
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Best I've ever read here, thanks! Happy Birthday to you both.

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#44 Oil4Life
August 16 2011, 11:38AM
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Well written article and some much needed perspective. Enjoy special days like these.

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#45 Sheldon "Oilers Fan for Life!!!"
August 16 2011, 11:43AM
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Happy Birth Day! I love having Sons and had my first at 31 and my 4th last year at 46. Zednic was a most wonderful surprise and has taught me that I love being a dad more than anything in the world. When I was younger I often found myself inconvenienced by their desires and wants. Now that I am approaching 50 I love being with my sons. I took my First son to his first hockey game in the spring of 06 and Ryan Smyth threw him a practice puck. Sitting on the couch with my son watching the man who gave him a puck almost win a Stanley was as good as it gets for a dad.

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#46 Hungoverman
August 16 2011, 11:53AM
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Happy Birthday to your son Robin. My son is now 1.5 years cancer free and a carefree 8 year old. Thank god for the folks at the Stollery. I always like reading your stories like the one posted today.

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#47 Wanye
August 16 2011, 11:53AM
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Happy Birthday Sam!

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#49 Harlie
August 16 2011, 12:06PM
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My best friend turns 37 today and I'm hitting that same number on the 22nd. If you count us and you and Sam that makes 4 Leo's!!

Happy B-Day to Sam and you and to my buddy!!

PS - I saw you at Koch picking up your new Explorer a few weeks back but I was tied up with a sales guy and so were you so I didn't get a chance to say hi to you. I was picking up a 2011 Ford Raptor in silver.

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#50 Pronger's Wife
August 16 2011, 12:11PM
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Cory G: All the best to you and your family and future family member.

This is why I love sports - sometimes it's a nice distraction from life, and at the end of the day when your team loses, who really cares?

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