DEAR JOHN....

Jason Gregor
October 31 2013 09:47AM

Breaking up is hard to do. I remember the first time a girl broke up with me, and after the initial blow to my ego, I vividly remember that I felt relieved. There wasn't going to be any tears. I guess I wasn't that into her, but it is funny to recall the sense of relief of not having to be the breaker upper.

Tears are always the worst part when you are the one doing the breaking up. You tell them you aren't feeling it anymore, and suddenly the waterworks come, then the guilt overrides you and you find yourself staying in the relationship for a few more weeks.

We've all been there, well, at least most of guys have. I'm not sure if a guy crying convinces a girl to stick around. I'm certain Wanye could enlighten us on that scenario...but I digress.

The first 14 Oilers games have been very stressful for you the fans.

Anger, disappointment, confusion, heartache and tinges of depression have engulfed you for the past 30 days. You honestly believed this year would be better. The Oilers told you it would be different.

Craig MacTavish's passionate speech about Bold moves had your loins burning with excitement. You and the Oilers were finally on the same page. Your relationship was on the road to repair. You told the Oilers you needed them to change and they did.

You couldn't deal with their indecisiveness any longer, so they got rid of Steve Tambellini.

You asked for more commitment, and the Belanger Triangle was bought out.

The one part of them that you always blamed; Horcoff, was traded.

You didn't want to deal with their baggage anymore, so Pettrell, Whitney, Peckham, Smithson and Hordichuk were flushed from the roster.

You wanted them to be stronger so Paajarvi was traded for Perron. They got grittier, and added an accent. You were giddy.

From July to September you were satisfied and felt secure in your relationship. The Oilers had listened to your concerns and addressed them. What more could you ask for. They were impressing you.

The preseason came and the so did victories. You hadn't felt like this in months. You started watching games in sweatpants instead of jeans so your excitement was more comfortable.

You started trusting the Oilers again, and then, like a well-placed kick to the junk combined with a knife in the back, the regular season happened.

Suddenly, they reverted to their old habits and as the losses mounted so too did your heartbreak.

The last 30 days have been tough, but I never realized how tough they were for Oilersnation until I received the following "Dear Oilers" letter from Joshua. 

Dear Oilers, 

First of all, let me apologize for taking the cowardly way out and doing this via a letter., We’ve been together so long now that I knew if I did it to your face you'd look at me with those Oil Drop eyes, remind me of the way things used to be, and I'd lose my nerve.

My needs aren't being met in this relationship anymore.

The red light isn't going off for me.
There just isn't enough action in the crease.
It seems like we never go out on a decent power play together anymore.
I don't feel supported in our own zone, and you forgot to kill our last penalty together!

I've loved and supported you through thick and thin, for richer or poorer, and even though I can’t afford to take my kids to the game and share them with you, I always felt like we had a great connection.

But there has to be a limit.

I still care about you and wish only the best for you.
 

Make changes to be better, but do it for you, don't do it for me.  

Until then, I think we should see other teams. Maybe it will re-ignite the passion that's gone from our relationship.

Maybe one day we can both look back on this and laugh. I'll just sit in my corner and look longingly at the standings, thinking of how things were. 

I love you. 

Yours in despair and loneliness,

Joshua
 

That. Was. Deep. Powerful. Poignant. Touching.

I'm sure Josh isn't alone, but will he be able to stay away? Many have tried, most have failed, and that is what is so frustrating about sports.

We'd never let a woman/man treat us that way, yet we continually forgive our favourite team.

For years I've tried to breakup with the Miami Dolphins, but every August I find myself looking at their roster, then at their schedule and I get sucked back in.

Those Bastards.

Joshua, I wish you all the best, and hope that you can be stronger than the rest of us. We say we will leave, but we never do.

Be strong, be brave and become a catalyst for change.

Godspeed.

P.S... No one will judge you when you come back. We've all been there.

RECENTLY BY JASON GREGOR 

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#101 Jesse
October 31 2013, 11:18AM
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It's only October and we are looking at potential draft picks for 2014.

Scoreboard watching is only for what position Oilers will pick in the draft 2014.

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#102 Bucknuck
October 31 2013, 11:24AM
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loweblows wrote:

being an oiler fan is like bill murray in groundhog day except bill murray figured it out

Yeah but he had to drive off a cliff and have a bath with a toaster before he did. This start to the season feels a bit like that cliff drive with the groundhog driving.

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#103 Souby
October 31 2013, 11:32AM
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Brad wrote:

The organization is playing prevent defense. Everyone is too scared to make a mistake right now. They think they are protecting their job.

Sad but true.

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#104 Lochenzo
October 31 2013, 11:34AM
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You think being a Fish fan is tough? I'm a Bills fan. Now there is depravity!! The only thing interesting to happen to the Bills franchise over the past 20 years was Flutie Flakes.

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#105 Fresh Mess
October 31 2013, 02:20PM
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Gregor, when do we find out if Potter and freakinGrebeshkov cleared?

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#106 vetinari
October 31 2013, 02:30PM
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Fresh Mess wrote:

Gregor, when do we find out if Potter and freakinGrebeshkov cleared?

They both cleared and are with the Barons.

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Blood is colour Blue

Cheer for Oil until I die

No matter how bad

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#108 Zarny
October 31 2013, 03:07PM
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Max Talbot is a centre and Colorado now has 6 bonafide NHL centres.

I wonder if another shoe is about to drop there.

Max Talbot is a RW.

He's played on the wing in Phi and played on the wing in Pit.

Unlikely another shoe is about to drop. Talbot is experienced and has won a Cup. I think Col simply wanted to have an Andrew Ference type guy in their locker room to mentor the young kids.

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#109 TDSM31
October 31 2013, 05:17PM
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Pierre LeBrun ‏@Real_ESPNLeBrun

As @adater first reported, can confirm Max Talbot traded for Steve Downie

Well, I guess this confirms it...Downie slept with Varlamov's wife.

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#110 Rod from Viking
October 31 2013, 08:48PM
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Lochenzo wrote:

You think being a Fish fan is tough? I'm a Bills fan. Now there is depravity!! The only thing interesting to happen to the Bills franchise over the past 20 years was Flutie Flakes.

Before that O.J. Simpson

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#111 Rod from Viking
October 31 2013, 08:57PM
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RexLibris wrote:

So, basically something along these lines...

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dca_pS9bQE0

I can't find it now, but there was a similar "its not you, its me" breakup video done by a Leafs fan a few years ago. Great stuff.

That is absolutely hilarious, Jason should run a contest for a disgruntled Oil Fan video, he had great response to The Prancercise Parody and this would help reduce the stress of the die hard Oiler fans.

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#112 K_Mart
October 31 2013, 10:05PM
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Great letter. Change is promised over and over, but the bad habits just never seem to go away.

The letter really says it all for me.

-Want to leave, but have grown so attached to this relationship that I'm afraid of what life without the team would be like. Even if this life brings nothing but heartbreak year after year.

"Winning is not a sometime thing; it's an all time thing. You don't win once in a while, you don't do things right once in a while, you do things right ALL THE TIME. Winning is habit. Unfortunately, so is losing." - Vince Lombardi

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#113 Aitch
November 01 2013, 05:39AM
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I tried to leave in the Fall of '91 after the Messier and Fuhr/Anderson deals were completed. Didn't happen. Couldn't do it then. Probably not gonna do it now. And I'm out on the Rock. So, I'm am literally losing sleep over this team.

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