CHERISH YOUR FATHER...

Jason Gregor
September 29 2013 11:01AM

I love sweets. Chocolate bars, candy, ice cream, pies and cakes I love them all, but for the longest time my guilty pleasure was Long Johns. From a teenager until my early thirties I couldn’t walk into a Safeway, without walking out with at least one chocolate covered long john.

I’ve found many other treats taste sweeter, yet long johns were my favourite, partially because my late father shared the same love affair with them; except he devoured the maple ones. When I think of the number thirteen, the term “baker’s dozen” always pops into my head, and this past week I’ve been thinking a lot about the number 13.

Thirteen years ago today, my father, William Arthur Gregor, passed away at the young age of 56. His heart gave out in his car at a red light in Sherwood Park. He had quit smoking a few years earlier, wasn’t a heavy drinker or overweight, but unfortunately it was his time.

Five days later, the morning of his funeral, I was nervous, solemn and agitated, and for an unexplained reason I decided to write an email to my close friends. I had bottled up a lot of my feelings the previous few days, and let them out in the email. I asked for their prayers, but at the end of the email I asked them for one favour.

I never got to say goodbye to my father, and I asked them if they could call their fathers, or give them a hug and tell them they loved him. I hoped that through their actions my father would know how much I truly loved and respected him.

Today, after you’ve read this, I hope you can find the time to do the same.

Unlike the previous years that I wrote about my father, this year my thoughts and emotions are much different. I still miss seeing his smile, hearing his laugh and experiencing his genuine zest for life, but this year I feel a new connection, and sadly, also an incredible longing for him.

In ten weeks, my lovely wife Traci and I will become parents. I have so many new emotions stirring inside, and even though I haven’t met the little boy or girl yet, we want it to be a surprise; I already feel an incredible connection to him/her.

I can only imagine what it will feel like the first time we meet. Like most first-time fathers my mind wanders wondering if I’ll know what to do. Will I be patient enough? Will I be able to be firm when necessary, and tender when needed? It’s a mixture of unadulterated excitement, and a bit of trepidation.

Since I found out Traci was pregnant, I’ve started reading articles and books that I never would have read before. I’ve saved many articles with tips on raising children, mainly teenagers, you can never start preparing too early, and I’ve learned some great stuff.

However, as I prepare myself for the joy and wonder of fatherhood, I’ve spent a lot of time thinking about what made my dad such a great father to me and my siblings.

I thought it would be impossible to pinpoint one action that made him a great father, but after hundreds of memories of him flooded my mind these past few weeks, I found myself always coming back to one simple, yet incredibly powerful, action; love.

Dad rarely said, “I love you,” but he showed it regularly and usually unconditionally. Mostly I remember that he loved my mother, and I’ve realized that watching my father treat my mother in a loving fashion has had a profound impact on every aspect of my life.

It seems simple, and that is the beauty of it.

In John Medina’s book, Brain Rules, he breaks down how the human brain works. Why are some people “smarter” than others? The theory of “genius born” or “genius made” has been debated for years, but Medina had a very unique response on the topic.

He wrote: “A man once asked me, ‘how can I get my son into Harvard?’ “Go home and love your wife, was my answer.”

Too often we expect the answers to life’s questions to be profoundly deep, or that they will challenge us to do something extraordinary. Many times the simple, non sexy answer is best.

Over the past 13 years I’ve spent countless hours re-living the memories of my father, usually with a combination of laughter and tears, and I’ve started to realize that most of them involved him demonstrating how to love his family, specifically my mother.

My parents had a whirlwind, fairytale romance. They met at the post office in Grande Cache, Alberta. They went on a date the next day, were engaged three weeks after that and got married four months later.

Were they in love with each other? 100% percent, but did they know how to love each other? No, because love should be a verb, not a noun. They discovered how to let their love evolve and grow throughout their marriage.

Three months after dad passed, I walked into the farm house and found my mom sitting in the back entrance, tears running down her face, staring at an ice scraper. I asked her what was wrong, and she started to laugh/cry. 

Every winter morning when he left for work, Dad would scrape the ice/frost off of her car and start it for her. Every morning she said. She couldn’t believe how much a small thing meant to her and how much those little things mean in a relationship/friendship. She cried because she wasn’t sure she had ever told him how much she appreciated that. 

Gentlemen, never stop doing the little things for your partner, common law partner or your wife, and ladies if you have a wonderful man in your life, don’t hesitate to tell him how much his small acts of kindness mean to you. 

My father was rarely in a bad mood. He was always smiling, but when he needed to be the disciplinarian he knew how to get my attention. I only recall getting one real spanking in my life. I was 11 years old, and I had stolen some money out of my mom’s purse. Not a smart move on my part. 

I don’t remember how I got caught, but I do remember suffering the consequences. It was over quick, but I received the message loud and clear. Strangely enough, after the lecture and few well-deserved smacks on the rearend, it is one of the few times I vividly remember my father saying, “I love you, son.” 

Thinking back, I’m sure he didn’t like handing out that spanking, but I needed to be taught a lesson, however, before I left the room he wanted me to know he still loved me. I’ve yet to experience that rollercoaster (loving them emphatically, but having to hand out fair discipline) of “parenting” emotion, but when I do I hope I can find the right delivery. 

Being a great father is one of the toughest jobs in the world. I truly appreciate watching men who take the time to be involved in their children’s lives, who aren’t afraid to show them how to love, but also are willing to teach their kid’s good life lessons. 

Men rarely tell one another they are doing a great job as a husband and father, but I see it all the time and I truly want to say thank you. We need more of it the world, now more than ever, so if a man in your life or inner circle is doing a great job, politely let them know. They will appreciate it more than you know.

ROLE MODELS…

My father was my first role model. I truly wanted to be like him. I mimicked him so often that I even learned how to speak like Donald Duck from him. Nowadays I’m lucky to have four men in my immediate family that I can learn and watch from. 

My older brother Colin has many of my father’s traits. He’s a loving husband and father, and rarely misses attending his children’s activities. My brother-in-law Eric does the same, and watching a man truly love your little sister, who I always felt the need to quietly protect, is very comforting. 

I’ve also gotten to know Traci’s brother Rob, and I’m proud to say he’s a good man. He’s a car nut, and in between playing house and dolls with his two daughters, he’s found a way to get them to enjoy watching Nascar with him. Quite the unique combination. 

Doug, my father-in-law is very healthy conscious. He eats well, exercises often and is a great example of why being healthy is important. He also was, and is, a great father to my wife. Being a good father to your grown daughters makes life easier and more enjoyable for their husbands. 

Most dads cringe at the thought of their baby girl marrying a guy someday, and I’m sure Doug had a few sleepless nights after I proposed only six months after meeting Traci, haha. 

My annual letter has always come from a son’s perspective, and I think it is important for men to express our gratitude to our fathers because we rarely do. However, over the past two years I’ve been lucky enough to experience how important a father’s love and respect to his daughter can be for her, but also her husband. 

He taught Traci self-respect, showed her through his actions to his wife, Cheryl, and to her how a woman should be loved. She was a “daddys girl,” but not in a spoiled way. He taught her good life lessons on how to balance a cheque book, make her own payments, treat people with kindness, but like my father, at the root of their relationship was undying love. 

I learned, often subconsciously it turns out, through my father’s actions how to love a woman, and Traci learned how to be loved by a man. I believe that has helped make our marriage much easier. 

SHARE WITH THEM…

It is great to see fathers introduce their children to the things he loves, as well as spending time doing what they love. Make sure do that. When I was 14 I loved Motley Crue. On the way to my hockey games dad would let me crank up their music, but often on the way home or on other trips he exposed me to the music he loved. I’ve a huge fan of Motown, Elvis Presley, Buddy Holly and others because of that. Whenever I hear one of their songs I smile, because it reminds me of my father. 

Take the time to make lifelong memories with your children. I can speak from experience that having those memories of my father does lessen the void in my heart now that he is gone. 

Make sure you take some time to connect with your children. They might never tell you, but our parents are our first and most important role models. You can help shape your son or daughter’s future in a positive manner, usually just by giving them your time. 

Put down your cell phone and stop texting, tweeting, facebooking, instagraming or emailing and connect with them and your significant other. We all desire that attention and connection, and I firmly believe those moments revitalize us and allow us to keep working hard. 

Thanks in advance to those who follow through on my request to hug or call your father. My sincere condolences to those who have lost your father. I hope that the memories of him are still alive in your heart today. If your father is gone make sure you call your mother, because the void in her heart is likely much deeper than yours. 

Dad, I still love you deeply. I miss hearing you talk like Donald Duck, your laugh and most of all your love. Please watch over all of my family, friends, my lovely wife Traci, your soon-to-be 7th grandchild and especially your soulmate; Mom. 

Love, your son, Jason 

P.S--- If you are feeling a bit awkward about calling your father, take a moment and watch this. You might be surprised to learn that you’ll feel as much happiness about sharing your gratitude with him as he will get about hearing it.

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One of Canada's most versatile sports personalities. Jason hosts The Jason Gregor Show, weekdays from 2 to 6 p.m., on TSN 1260, and he writes a column every Monday in the Edmonton Journal. You can follow him on Twitter at twitter.com/JasonGregor
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#1 Bryan in SK
September 29 2013, 11:12AM
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Amen, Jason. I lost my Dad when I was 18, and my Father-in-Law passed away several years ago as well. All of our grandparents are gone, too. I greatly missed the male leadership, but I am fortunate to have some great wise seniors to hang around with at my church. I hope everybody takes a moment to give their Dad a call while there is still time.

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#2 Cynic
September 29 2013, 11:45AM
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Oh man. Those allergies are acting up again. That was devastatingly well written.

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Nice job there Gregor

Losing a parent is hard

Miss my Mom daily*

*15 June, 1999...brain cancer

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#4 mlcsellil
September 29 2013, 11:28AM
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First things first Jason, Congratulations on the soon to be birth of your child. There is no doubt you will be a fantastic father. The love you have shines through every day with your listeners. Fatherhood will come so natural for you as a result of growing up with your parents as such great role models. Once again, thanks for sharing the personal side of your life with us.

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#5 tjcurrie
September 29 2013, 11:40AM
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I lost my mom back in March. She had her health problems but it was still a shock, she was just 59. I find myself tearing up at certain things like maybe a song; a memory that's brought to the surface; or just randomly no matter where I am.

Fortunately, last year I took some time to tell both my parents that throughout tough times and above all faults that they admittedly regretted, just how much I loved them and how amazing they have done raising myself and my three siblings - and that I wouldn't trade my upbringing for anything in the world. Though I regret not seeing or talking to my mom for the few days before she passed, I'm glad I did that and I hope she felt it in her heart.

My dad is your typical old school father. We stopped saying I love you when I was maybe 9 or so. We butted heads over certain things throughout my 20s and a few years ago it came to a boiling point. We met in the hallway at my parents home and I grabbed him. I had a good hold on him and screamed "I'm gonna kill you!". Harsh, I know. But I was angry. I felt like I could have put him through the wall. My mom intervened and about 2 seconds later I released him.

I immediately started crying. 30 years old and I'm bawling in front of my parents. My dad said that it was okay and every father-son goes through that. But it wasn't okay. Not to me. I did something I never thought I'd do - something I regret to this day. But funny enough, as we resolved it there I told him I loved him, and he reciprocated. We now say it almost every time we part ways or get off the phone.

Something so hard to say is now so easy, and so worth it.

God bless, Gregor

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#6 blue31
September 29 2013, 11:47AM
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Good column, Jason.

My recipe for raising two good young men, both now in University:

Stay united on the same page with your spouse. At least in front of the kids. Always. The little urchins learn at a young age to divide and conquer.

Take an interest in your kids music. It is important to them. Even if it makes your ears bleed. If I can put up with Back Street Boys, Spice Girls, Rammstein and Jack Johnson (in order) so can you.

Parent first, friend second. They have enough friends.

And watch those friends. Weed out the bad ones quickly.

Let them make decisions on some things. And give them no choice on others. (Keeps the little buggers confused and off-balance, not controlling and spoiled.)

You are off to a good start before you even begin, Jason. Congrats.

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#7 Mac962
September 29 2013, 11:54AM
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Lost my dad at 18 - had to go identify his body for mom. its like yesterday. Lost mom at Xmas 2 years ago. Life can really hurt at times. We all have our stories or will. My heart goes out too those who have that pain or will be experiencing it. Tough goes right out the window when this crap happens. Balled like a baby in a fetal position.

Ok- dont need this right now.

Have a great Sunday boys - because....thats what we are.

Mac

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#8 Andy P
September 29 2013, 02:41PM
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My father had his own problems that shattered our family. We went head to head many times, and years passed when I would have nothing to do with him.

I had married young, my wife was 19 and I was 22, and here we are pushing 40 years together.

One day he was in a car crash and he was seriously injured. I had not spoken to him in years but I went to the hospital and told him I loved him.

We reconciled when he came out of hospital, but he was a proud man, and one day when he ran out of the money necessary to pay an overdue parking ticket he committed suicide rather than be dependent on anyone else.

I was the only person in our extended family to be willing to put up the funds to cover his final expenses.

I am the only member of my family to have made my peace with my father before he died. I am so glad I was able to express my love for him, to him, when I did, it was just in time as it turned out.

My wife and I have had a set of lovely children, there have been good and bad decisions, and they have had discipline and tough love, but always unconditional. This love is now reflected in their lives, they are loving parents and spouses, and as such, I have broken the chain my father carried down from his father.

Love conquers everything. It really does.

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#9 Dave
September 29 2013, 11:41AM
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Sorry for your loss Jason, but extremely happy about your addition.

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#10 Oasis
September 29 2013, 11:52AM
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Jason, you'll be a great father..........because you want to be. You're dad will be proud.

Great article and here's to a health baby.

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#11 Naky
September 29 2013, 02:06PM
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I don't remember my dad, he died when I was too young to know him. So for all of you who has gotten to spend time with yours and still can, don't take it for granted.

And for those of you who have lost yours, cherish those memories.

At least you got a chance to make them.

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#12 ubermiguel
September 29 2013, 05:31PM
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Nice, except I have a qualm with one part.

"Gentlemen, never stop doing the little things for your partner, common law partner or your wife, and ladies if you have a wonderful man in your life, don’t hesitate to tell him how much his small acts of kindness mean to you."

This isn't the 19th century anymore, these type of gender roles shouldn't exist. Women can do what a man can do, and so both are fully capable of 'doing the little things' for each other, and that includes scraping the ice off a windshield and warming the car.

The Nation is a bit of a boys club, so Gregor's talking to the boys here. I'm sure we all agree it goes both ways.

This sort of thing works for any relationship; like when you grab a coffee for a co-worker without being asked; or when you clear you neighbour's sidewalk after finishing your own.

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#13 oobespoons
September 29 2013, 12:09PM
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love to make a big long post but just decided to head over to my Mom & Dad's! Thanks Jason!

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#15 Wäx Män Riley
September 29 2013, 12:36PM
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I'd love to give my father a giant hug for you Gregor, but like you, my father passed away way too young.

Seven years ago, at the age of 52, my dad died in his sleep of a massive heart attack. He died on the night he and my mom celebrated their 28th wedding anniversary. My mom had to find him on the couch in the morning after a night of celebration.

Seven years later my mom has now passed, again, way too young. She didn't even make 60.

Now I am a new parent of a beautiful 16 month old boy, Sonnie(Sunny). I love him with all of my heart and at night, when I am rocking him to sleep I wish with my whole life that my dad could have known him. I was lucky enough to have my mom know him for the frst 5 weeks of his life. I wish that he was here to help guide me as a father.

Love your new baby, Jason. Be the father that your dad was to you and my dad was to me. It is the best thing I have ever done in my life, and I didn't really know love until I met Sonnie on that amazing June day.

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#16 Zack
September 29 2013, 12:43PM
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I don't post on here too often but I'm a frequent reader and this piece gets me every time, for the last three or so years now. Thank you for sharing Gregor.

I can count on one hand how many times my dad has told me he loved me but I'm perfectly fine with that, for what he may not say in words he shows both my sister and I how much he cares for us and how proud he is of his kids. This summer, after graduating University, I went back home for a couple of months and was offered a job up north in Alberta. It was my time to leave the nest and I remember pulling out of the drive way, we said our goodbyes, shook hands and I left. We kind of looked at each other for a second before I got in the car and I just remember him standing at the edge of the driveway waving. I'll never forget that.

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#17 Wäx Män Riley
September 29 2013, 04:04PM
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Naky wrote:

I don't remember my dad, he died when I was too young to know him. So for all of you who has gotten to spend time with yours and still can, don't take it for granted.

And for those of you who have lost yours, cherish those memories.

At least you got a chance to make them.

I thank whatever religious figure you can think of that I got to have my father for 26 years. I know some people aren't that lucky. Believe me the memories are cherished.

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#18 Freewheeling Freddie
September 29 2013, 11:55AM
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Great job Jason. I still have both parents who are in their eighties I talk them just about everyday. I have friends who lost both parents by the time they were 30.I shed tears for them around special occasions as they are parentless. Do this every year Jason

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#19 kawi460
September 29 2013, 12:41PM
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I am sorry to hear about your loss. I'm pretty young and haven't suffered a major loss like you Gregor. It's a sad part of life. I appreciate the life lesson's you have shared.

Congratulations to you and your wife on the pregnancy!!!!

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#20 Butters
September 29 2013, 04:07PM
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Congratulations JG. I am a bit squeamish, but the birth of my two sons was the most awe-inspiring life-affirming things I have ever experienced. Enjoy every minute. Enjoy sleep while you still can.

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#21 cableguy - 2nd Tier Fan
September 29 2013, 06:09PM
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we should be able to Props an article. i would give this unlimited props.

As always Gregor, well done.

...damn allergies acting up all of a sudden.

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#22 Oiler Al
September 29 2013, 06:26PM
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These sports sites, bring out a lot of ballzy and challenging lexicon, some serious ,some in jest, but all in manner of manly jousting.

Jsson,it takes a real man to write an article like you did.Not many of us can. Well done.

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#23 Manfly
September 29 2013, 07:31PM
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very sad to read about it, Jason! you and he missed valuable time together when he would have been in his senior years, and he was cheated out of being a senior altogether. I have been extremely lucky with my dad, who's 79 and still going strong, AND still goes to Oiler/Esk games with me. after twice surviving a bout of Crohns disease that almost took him away each time, I DO cherish whatever little time he does have left, and try to hang out with him whenever I have time.

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#24 Team Omark - The spin move. The shot. The goal.
September 29 2013, 11:58AM
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Nice, except I have a qualm with one part.

"Gentlemen, never stop doing the little things for your partner, common law partner or your wife, and ladies if you have a wonderful man in your life, don’t hesitate to tell him how much his small acts of kindness mean to you."

This isn't the 19th century anymore, these type of gender roles shouldn't exist. Women can do what a man can do, and so both are fully capable of 'doing the little things' for each other, and that includes scraping the ice off a windshield and warming the car.

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#25 Wäx Män Riley
September 29 2013, 12:40PM
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Also, thank you for this. Every year I read your column about your father, and every year I end up at my desk at work (yes, even Sundays) reading this with tears in my eyes and tissue in my hand.

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#26 mikeisthird
September 29 2013, 02:42PM
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Every year this is one of my favorite posts on ON - because it goes past the usual bravado of sports talk and sports discussion... you were very lucky indeed to have such a great dad - and based on the way you value what he is to you, I'm sure that mini-Gregor will be blessed indeed.

Cheers to you, Jason, on a bittersweet day.

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#27 Steve H
September 29 2013, 02:46PM
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Jason, Touching..brought back many awesome memories. Both my parents are now passed, and I remember those memories..like the first Oiler game my dad, mom and myself went to in the early 80's. That was priceless. Dad always worked shift work, the strong silent type, but I saw the same love he gave us without saying those three words. And yes, I got a kick in the ass once. Once. I learned my lesson. Good luck in the future with the arrival of your little one. I'm sure you will do more than fine raising the young one. Thanks,

Steve

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#28 oiosnc79
September 29 2013, 03:16PM
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Here here ....

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September 29 2013, 03:40PM
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My condolences.

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#30 StHenriOilBomb
September 29 2013, 04:03PM
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Dammit Gregor, I come to read about hockey and end up spending an hour writing an email to my dad.

Thanks for that. It's nice to have a reminder sometimes.

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#31 Harlie
September 29 2013, 06:06PM
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Always your best post of the year.

A toast to you, your Dad and your family as I sit down with my family to eat our Sunday dinner and enjoy each other's company.

Cheers to the Gregor's!

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#32 cheryl stuart
September 29 2013, 12:08PM
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posted this on my fb page and its generated so many comments and stories from old friends....thanks....my dad passed in 98...I had moved to Alberta in 78....didn't realize how much I must have hurt my parents moving like I did until my own two have now moved on...I understand but it still hurts not having them close...I smiled with your story about long johns...my dad always loved 'crackly nuts' which were cracker jacks...still call them by his name....

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#33 Lannyfan
September 29 2013, 01:58PM
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Sorry - cut off previous post. I admire you a great deal and love that you are prepared to open up about the things in life that transcend the mindset of the importance of professional sports.

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#34 Supernova
September 29 2013, 10:50PM
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Jason,

I want to commend you on taking the time to write and convey your thoughts and emotions.

I am glad that you look at the others around you and see the positives that they bring and Instill in the lives they touch.

I am blessed to have my dad still, it has taken some work and time but we have become great friends. I truly feel blessed to have my first child and have them interact with their grandparents.

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#35 Zipdot
September 30 2013, 06:11AM
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My dad is so absorbed with his new bride, who is two years younger than his youngest child (me, I'm 32), that I'm worried I'll never be able to have a normal conversation with him again... Dunno what to do. They got married this year but have been dating for 5 years, and in that time, I haven't been able to go for a beer with him one time, like we used to do.

So aggravating. She's the devil. She actively works against me and my sister, trying to block us out of his life. And for what!? Dunno, she just wants him separated from us at all costs....

Sucks. :(

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#36 smiliegirl15
September 30 2013, 11:34AM
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It will be 11 years in October since my dad has been gone. The most important thing he ever gave me was self esteem. I grew up on a farm too and being the oldest, he taught me it didn't matter that I was a girl, I could do whatever I wanted to do, be whomever I wanted to be. He broke any gender role that might have existed out there for me. He may have just wanted a number one farmhand but that worked out well for me in the long run.

You will become a dad about the same time my sister in law will give birth to their third child. I see my two brothers with their kids and know they learned a thing or two about being a good dad from our dad.

My brother Jason plays on the floor with his kids like our dad did with us.

My brother Greg takes his little guy, who's just a year, on the tractor / combine / sprayer with him. That was one of all of our favourite places to be - with our dad, wherever he was.

Be with your kids, play with your kids, build up their self esteem without making them arrogant. Don't be too busy to have time for them because that's all they really want from you, your time. Our dad is gone but all three of us have memories of the time he spent with us. He gave us the tools he could to become the adults we are. He may never have gotten to see his grandchildren but they certainly reap the benefits of his having been there for us.

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#37 Wanye
September 30 2013, 11:52AM
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Brilliant as it is every year Gregor. Thanks for sharing and thanks to everyone else for telling their tales in the comments.

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#38 aeiouY
September 30 2013, 10:32AM
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This hits a soft spot every year Jason. Thanks.

Helps puts things in perspective and a makes for a good time to hit the reset button on certain priorities.

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#39 #ThereGoesTheOilers
September 30 2013, 11:15AM
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I really appreciate this Gregor. Thank you.

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#40 Eulers
September 30 2013, 12:35PM
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Jason, This is an annual tradition I really appreciate. Congrats on the upcoming arrival of your first child. Don't be shy about sharing your insights. Fatherhood isn't too far away on the horizon for myself and I have a lot to learn!

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#41 Pucker
September 30 2013, 01:25PM
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Thanks Jason and congrat's.

I'm working on my second young family. The easiest and best change I've made this time around is to maintain a sense a humour, which leads to patience.

Tying into this, I've added a 'why not' into my thought process when fielding their requests. Being of old-school, this was hard to do, but not too hard.

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#42 Micbilly99
September 30 2013, 03:08PM
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Jason, great tradition and congrat's on the new arrival. Fatherhood is tough, challenging and plain old awesome. Trust your instincts but mainly trust your heart and you will do your father proud!

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#43 Oilitsinyoutogive
September 30 2013, 06:36PM
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My dads one of the reasons I started to follow this site. Every year you write this type of article. It always made me think and call my dad or try and go spend some time with him. He passed away last year and this is the first time I've caught one these since it happened. Must say you can stir some emotion surely! Great story and i like the way you tell it. Missed but not forgotten, gone but still shown in our actions

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#44 RyanCoke
September 30 2013, 09:04PM
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Words that hit me on a new level with my current situation in life. Inspiring words that truly changed something in my heart today.

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#45 Thulqurnayn
October 05 2013, 03:18PM
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I honestly look forward to this piece every year. I usually do not agree with you regarding the Oil. But, I can't agree with you more regarding this topic. Every year it reminds me of how lucky I am to have a phenomenal father.

Being a father of two boys this article reminds of the father I want to be. Its equally as important to be a good husband.

I'm Sorry for your loss, I truly love the piece you write about your father every year.Thank you.

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